I often coach clients through crisis or at least the perception of crisis.
Amy K Moments
THIS is an Amy K Audio Moment. That means you click on the link below and listen for a moment (okay, about two and a half minutes, but still momentous).
As many of you know, Valentine’s Day is my favorite holiday. A holiday that does NOT require weeks of preparation and planning, nor ridiculous amounts of money, and most importantly – no large meals that I am responsible for. If all goes well, I might not have to cook at all.
One of my intentions for 2012 is to be powered by inspiration. I am tired of pushing, striving, trying. It’s ever so much easier to be pulled, inexorably, by what inspires you.
Last week my six year old inevitably asked me if I thought that Santa Claus was real. We had watched the Polar Express recently with its theme of ‘believe or not to believe’ and his buddies have been spreading rumors about the big man in the red suit. I looked down at him and with a deep breath said, “Yes, yes I do.”
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” Steve Jobs
By definition, desire and detachment just don’t go together. That deep ‘longing for’ feeling doesn’t mesh with an ‘easy come, easy go, no problem!’ kind of attitude. Yet, when we really, really want something, we are often afraid of feeling disappointed or maybe even devastated, if we don’t get it. We want a little detachment, because it can be hard to handle the intensity of desire.
I’ve been getting my house ready to sell. There’s been a lot of de-cluttering. Letting go. Cleaning. Sprucing up. Organizing. And just outright fixing and replacing. A broad range of activities – all necessary and quite time consuming – months of effort. There are moments of stepping back to see the big picture, then diving in again on the tasks. Moments of doubt, fear, hitting the wall. Moments of inspiration and creativity. And moments of pleasure in what is emerging. It requires vision, belief, investment, patience and commitment for it all to come together. And now we WILL be able to sell this house and get more money because of this transformation.
It might be a cliché, that whole “work smarter, not harder” thing, but today I remind you of the inestimable value of “smarter.”
The value hit me in a small way when doing a project for my son’s school. It involved making a dozen superhero capes from pillowcases. For the record, arts and crafts are NOT my forte. A fellow mom had told me it was so easy, just cut the seam, then do something or other with string, etc. I sat at my kitchen table last night for 15 minutes stumped and feeling inept. Finally, I said ‘#bleep# this’ and quickly sewed two pieces of ribbon for the ties instead of doing it “the right way.” Voila! Done.
In this new year, I step back to consider again what I really want for my life.